What are the best ways to really connect with new women ?
by Tom Vizzini


What are the best ways to really connect with new women you meet > Hi there, > > I wanted to ask what are the best ways to really connect with new women you > meet, right from the first moment, or minute? > > The context can be also a club, pub, bar and also > more day to day scenes- places where you might have women passing by. > > And I don't mean to any "seduction" techniques and so forth... > > I am talkin about creating a natural healthy friendly connection... just as > you would do with any other human being you want to get close to or be friends > with. This is a great goal. I think everyone has someone or some type of person that they have trouble talking to. It could be your boss or a woman or even someone famous. For some reason we make them different. Something about them triggers us and suddenly we are stumbling over our words or even to scared to talk. It is the most common problem I see. So there you are with a bunch of people getting along really well. Then someone tells you that the guy you have been joking with is a billionaire. Most people would suddenly change how they treated the guy because now he is not a person. He is a billionaire. The same is true of men talking to women. The more sexually attracted you become to someone the less of a person they become and the more of an object they become. Guys forget that women even have a favorite color because they are so focused on what their favorite sexual position might be. The same is true ...in the opposite direction. Some people look down on others just because of what they do for a living, what religion they are, where they live, what their politics are and other such things. They could be getting along great but then discover they are a republican. Then everything they were having fun with disappears. One of the keys that we work on when teaching the rapport stuff is how to set you pre-judgments aside and see what is really there. Seeing is the most important part of rapport because it tends to influence how you feel about someone. A friend of mine went to Las Vegas on business. One guy we knew was also there and asked if my friend wanted to come over to his hotel and hang out. My friend put him off until the last day of his trip and when he went to the hotel he found out that this guy was LOADED and had a 4 bedroom suite at the hotel. Suddenly they were best friends. In that one moment my friends agenda and opinion changed. I frankly think that is phony and it has influenced my opinion of him in a negative way. If you take the money out of the equation, the guy is a bit of an ass. I certainly would not be around him. Some people let money influence what they think of someone. When you see what is REALLY there then you can make good decisions about what people REALLY are like. The trick is to look without having an agenda. Seeing without projecting what you think is already there. Feeling you gut instinct and trusting it. This is one of the first steps in the New Unstoppable Rapport process. When you do this, it is much easier to have a genuine connection with anyone including women. So here are some questions to help you get there. 1 When you think of connecting with this kind of person, what are you pre-judgments about them? 2 When you think about approaching them what position of power do you default to? 3 What is the feeling that sends you in that direction of power? 4 If what you expect was not true, how would your opinion change? We will get more into this at the Unstoppable Rapport Seminar. In Atlanta this weekend and in London in July. Www.essential-skills.com Have fun Tom

Originally Posted: Jun 10, 2008 at 9:03 AM
Last Updated: Jun 10, 2008 at 9:03 AM





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